Defend Against Complainers

Complainers are very popular. Many of us practice it from time to time. Others do not understand that they complain all their life unceasingly. I do not blame this behavior because it's difficult to avoid it when one feels bad. Even if little by little complaining becomes the way to live.


This is and was the theme of different researches. Complainers not only damage their own brain with continuous complains, they damage all those who lives and happens near them even if for a short time. Everybody knows the bad feeling we have near such persons. We can't help often. And they don't want to receive help. Their brain is just in that terrible state.


Once I wanted to help one girl who complained the betrayal of her husband. I felt sorry and thought, I had to listen to her. A kind of psychoanalyst gratis. Imagine, I listened to her for different months hours and hours every day from the morning - every time she could find me by phone. After it I could not continue this way and told her she had not to phone me more. Well, some days after it, one friend told me, that girl speaks everywhere bad about me...


So, I turn back to the researches. They proved that the negative thinking of other persons and continuous complaints create negative thinking and behavior in our own brains. And this is the reason why we have to avoid complainers as much as possible. 


As I wrote in my previous posts about the stress remedies, we have to avoid negativities as much as possible, first. 
Then, we have to control our reactions when something happens in our lives.
Finally, we have to create positive exposure for our brains as frequently as possible.




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How to Reduce Sterss 2

Reducing stress is not the easiest task in our lives. We use different remedies most of them are not healthy. The most popular are drinking, smocking and eating. And, since we are stressed practically every day, this behaviour becomes habit, a kind of addiction, and we have to use bigger and bigger quantities of our "medicine".

1 - I used to avoid everything that provoked states of anxiety: I did not watch TV notices and films that were full of bad notices, crys and yells, killings and horrors (and I don't do it till today before I have to go sleep).

In Italy, TV became a kind of a tool of "natural selection": there are too many persons with not stable mind -they repeat  desperate gestures they see on the screen. We had epidemic of mothers that killed their children, for example. 


2 - Very often is enough to avoid a person or an environment where you feel bad, nervous. If it's possible. And... this analysis of your life, when you are able to detect the "bad" person, will do so that other similar persons will not be attracted by you more. Because if you attract ONE of such persons, you probably attract other similar persons, too. So, it's something inside you that attracts this kind of persons.


3 - Other reason of stress are too many tasks. It's enough sometimes to make a list and to cancel some of them. Or to find your personal way to solve the problem. What do you do when you have too many plates to wash? Or too many things to iron? What is your personal way to manage this situation?


So, we discover that it's often our perception and not external conditions that provoke stress in our life. And analysis is often just enough to show to our brain the way to turn calm and happy.

What Actually Works if We Want to Reduce Stress?

Do you have your favorite remedy to reduce stress? I'll try to guess... Ice-cream or a bag of potato chips? And, since we feel or are stressed every day, we abuse them so that it's possible to define this excessive use sugar and fat addiction and put them in the same row with drug and alcohol addictions (I wrote about it in my previous post sugar addiction).

 

Unfortunately, it's not the best way to treat the stress.

Here is the approximate list of the more healthy solutions:

It's difficult to sleep when we are stressed but if you sleep 7-8 hours per night you become more happy person. At place of the classic sheeps, create a mala for you and count your breath or mantras concentrating your attention on the beads of your mala. This behaviour can become "addiction" but it really works perfectly to calm your mind and to have more calm sleep.



Next is clearly a healthy diet. It's not so bad to eat only salads every day in summer, you know...

 

And, finally, cultivate your favorite active hobbies. Something you do with great pleasure.

 

There is No Buddha Outside Of the Mind

Sound healing is a very powerful technique to relax, to find a balance in the own life. The posts of this blog are often dedicated to the sounds and their use for meditation. I found 2 interesting videos with mantras today. these sounds were studied for centuries and maybe for millenniums to touch the most deep and important strings of our soouls. There are only 2 monasteries teaching this kind of singing as I know.

In any case you will enjoy the holy silence and majestic beauty of excellent film about Himalayas



The other example of deep singing

To Choose A Singing Bowl

Singing bowl is an other help for meditation and relaxation, and is used for healing proposes, you know it just. Did you know that they use to heal not only sound but the vibrations too? I decided to make me a Christmas gift and to buy a singing bowl, so I'm studying the question different days.
This photo is from the site Veet.it and there are other photos to demonstrate how it works. I was really surprized to see them. I never thought this vibration can be used this way.

Now I know: there are not only different notes and frequences used for different chakras. There are different sound grades. There are bowls with very pronounced vibration and those that "sing" 1 -3 minutes and more. There are Healing grade and Master healing grade sounds, 80-100 "points". More points -better is the sound.

What I could not understand is that Healing quality and not healing quality bowls had the same 98 -99 points gradation. Maybe the difference was uin the vibration?

Today I found an interesting and really informative video. As in any case, you have to think about YOUR personal impressions if you decided to buy a singing bowl. If your body wants this sound -you can buy it.



Oh, forgot. The sounds devided by chakras.
Violet B/si
Indigo A/la "third eye"
Azure G/sol
Green F/fa (heart)
Yellow E/mi (solar plexus)
Orange D/re (secret)
Red C/do (base)

Aromatherapy For Relax And Good Sleep

Some days ago I wrote about aromatherapy and said, I never use it. Except rare profumes or incenses I normally not like smells. And it is not treue. Not completely true.

Do you remember I bought some stones and aromatherapy objects: incenses and others to resell them ("Mystic Gemstones Blog"). Among others I have "Sleeping stones". What are they? Pumice stones impregnated with pure lavender oil. If you put them in a cup and place them near the head of your bed, you will sleep deeper and the sleep will be more restful. When you do not feel their smell you only shake them and they are refreshed.

In the morning you put them back in their plastic bag and you have them fresh in the evening.

Because I was very busy with the semiprecious stones I forgot completely about them. But this autumn after the operation I could not sleep. I tryed with this or that but than I suddenly saw the box with these stones. I took one bag and now I use it. I have the bag with the stones near the bed and open it in the evening.
They smell very good, I have not problems with it. And I really sleep better in the last period.

Labyrinth Is For Relaxation

«Лабиринт» на Яндекс.Фотках

I thought all my life that labyrinth is a sort of game. Now I discovered it is not so. These constructions were -first of all- the paths to Enlightenment. And you can find them even in the most important gotic churches like Chartres and Amiens and Siena. I would really like to visit these churches. But today I want to tell you about the healing use of these constructions in modern society.

Imagne, they are used as a very successful mode to relax persons and to cure stress! They say, there are about 2000 labyrinths in hospitals and similar centers only in the USA!

I have to confess, I've never seen one of them in my life. Maybe it is relaxing, I don't know. I wanted to write about labyrinths because I read about a couple in Denmark that createda labyrinth from great trees on their soil .

You can create a labyrinth to cure stress or to relax with anything you have and everywhere (stones, sand etc). The simple way is a finger labyrinth. Unfortunatelly, I did not understand what it is, and can't explain it to you here but you can download them from some sites in internet. Excuse me, maybe next time I will add one too.


«Соловки. Лабиринт на Б.Заяцком о-ве» на Яндекс.Фотках

Relaxation Session With Voice Of The Sea

I ask to pardon me those friends that have just seen this video in my posts about our visit of the beach (The Voice Of The Sea and Our Favourite Beach)

This registration I wanted to make long time ago. If you know the problem, you noticed that it is practically impossible to find a registration of "pure" sounds of the nature in internet. Not only a simple registration but that it is long enough to allow a meditation or relaxation session. It means, it has to be at least 5 minutes long. If it will be possible, I'll make a more long regisration later.

The image is not very good -it is turnd on the side for about 1 minute. Ehhh... Well, I neededthe sound first of all...

Relaxation

I was looking for some info in YouTube this morning and found these videos about relaxation. There are many videos with music with this or that, but I don't like them. I don't know, don't like. Here all these videos have moe or less the same technique:
concentrate your attention on the far sounds/things, than nearer and nearer, concentrate on the feelings of your body, breath. Guide your mind.
Post them here. Maybe you like them too.







As suggested by Rajshekhar in a comment to this post there is the possibility to have a relaxation audio visiting the site "Jose silva mind training method" and in the top on the right you'll find a star and "Get free course" you receive the first lesson and the 25 minutes audio that you can download in your computer. The system is the same as in the 3 video in this page.

More about relaxation and healing trouble techniques

It's true maybe, that when you look for something that is important in your life -not from your but from "cosmic" intentions (Till today I don't know how to name this to be accepted by all points of view)- the informations will come to you from very incredible parts.

All you know -and I become just noisy with this my idea fix- that I tryed to understand what is necessary to do to make the persons more happy.

In the last posts I told you about techniques of positive thinking, that are not very good interpreted by many of them hat practice them. Today, in the blog Yang Town I found a post How to Let Go of an Emotional Trauma that tells about other interpretation of this technique. The name is Tapas Acupressure Technique and is the great mix of 7-point prayer, marma points and positive thinking sentences.

First of all, The marma points here are not massaged but only touched.
Sincerely, I feel bad when I massage some marma points that are recomended to all as preventive and not dangerous.
From my experience I can confirm, the 7 point prayer is very effective.

Than I liked the 7-point prayer here. Hope the author will forgive me that I copy it.
Attention! These are only sentences.For the technique visit the link over.

Technique:

The healing I am about to do will also benefit all of my ancestors, my family, everyone involved, all parts of myself and all points of view I have ever held.

Step 1 - The Problem: This happened.
Step 2 - The Opposite of the Problem: This happened, it's over and I'm okay. I can relax now.
Step 3 - The Places: All the places in my mind, body and life where this has been stored are healing now.
Step 4 - The Origins: All the origins of this are healing now.
Step 5 - Forgiveness Part 1: I apologize to everyone I hurt related to this and wish them love, happiness and peace.
Forgiveness Part 2: I forgive everyone who hurt me related to this and wish them love, happiness and peace.
Step 5 - Forgiveness Part 3: I forgive everyone I blamed for this, including God and myself.
Step 6 - Parts: All the parts of me that got something from this are healing now.Step 7 - Whatever's Left: Whatever’s left about this is healing now.
Step 8 - Choosing: I choose ________. Fill in the blank with a statement of how you want to feel or any positive outcome that you want. Make sure it's positive such as "I choose to feel love towards my parents," and not "I choose to forget all the pain my parents caused me."
Step 9 - Integration: This healing is completely integrated now.
Step 10 - Gratitude: Simply give thanks to God, life, source energy etc. for the healing that has taken place.

Relaxation -from an article found surfing the web

The Taoist relaxation method is very simple: "Listen to your breathing." Nothing more is needed, except persistence and patience in such listening. If you do not persist, your attention will stray back into anxieties. Be patient; impatience merely adds to anxieties. holisticonline.com

Non-meditation.

"Surround yourself comfortably with calm and silence, sit down with a straight back, completely relaxed, breathe normally, in a soft and gentle way, and place your attention on a state of absolute presence without letting your mind wander for the count of three. This is the natural state of the mind, which spontaneously remains in a state of non-distraction, non-production and non-meditation."

The heart meditation.

" If you are unable to enter this state straight away, concentrate on a bright red letter, placed in the centre of your heart, any size which feels right to you. Allow this image to be vividly present, without forcing it. Allow it to absorb all your attention.'

Concentration and calming the mind.

If this meditation is difficult, take a simple object like a stone or a piece of wood, place it in front of you, gently focus on the object without blinking, allow nothing else to take hold of your mind, and gradually become totally present in a natural and relaxed manner. Look at everything which occurs to you without holding on to it, and gradually you will become peaceful. Everything which rises up will subside of its own accord, without any forcing on your part. Soon you will not be able to leave this non-conceptual state, and you will no longer want to move. This is a sign that you are becoming more familiar with the state of becoming peaceful, and you will reach a state of spontaneity.

Technique:

Begin sitting in a comfortable cross legged position. Or, lying on your back in Savasana, corpse pose. Relax the body, yet keep it active and alive. If sitting keep the spine straight. Close the eyes and begin to focus on the breath. With each inhalation lift the torso. Expand the rib cage. If you like, you can begin with Place the hands on your abdomen. With each inhalation, notice how much you expand. With each exhalation, become aware of the rib cage contracting. Release tension with each exhalation, allowing the belly to drop further into your hands.
Once you feel comfortable, move your hands to the middle abdomen. On your next inhale, fill the first chamber. Then the middle chamber. Again notice your middle area expanding and contracting. And notice any restrictions in the muscles or breath. Now incorporate the last step which is to breath into the final chamber of the lungs. To see if you are fully breathing into the third chamber, place your fingers on one side of your clavicle bone, your thumb on the other side, cupping around your neck.

Begin to breath into the lower chamber, then the middle chamber then the third chamber. Feel your fingers rise up. Keep the breath smooth by synchronizing the inhalation and exhalation. On the exhales, let the breath spill out from the top to the bottom like a pitcher of water pouring out. On the inhalation fill the pitcher up. At all times keep the breath smooth, effortless, and rhytmic. Be aware of any tension in the body and release it through the exhalation.